I can, however, be committed to my point of view, values and principles, while simultaneously working to transform my anger into neutrality, compassion, or curiosity. However, this rarely decreases my frustration and usually does not help to improve the situation or relationship in any way. If I am venting my anger at you in response to a disagreement or perceived hurt, or I am raging at others whose political, business, or ethical views are different than my own, it may help me to feel self-righteous. Taking Responsibility for One’s Own Emotional Response: We have explored this theme in previous blogs. If the only option we have is to place blame, it’s much less painful to blame others rather than to beat ourselves up! Outside of the legal system, however, applying this definition of responsibility rarely works well…because usually, the other person or entity is blaming us in return. Human nature being what it is, as individuals in our daily lives we also tend to hold others responsible when we are not getting our needs met or our goals achieved. Many expect the restaurant to pay for any resulting medical bills, or at least to compensate the customer for the inconvenience or injury in some way.
For example, if you visit a restaurant and you slip and fall on a wet floor while walking to your table, the restaurant owner is often held legally responsible.
If you look up responsibility in a dictionary, the definition reads ”to blame or hold accountable.” If you look up blame, it says: ”to hold responsible.” These definitions are central to our legal system. Today, let’s add another dimension to our exploration: our human struggle with taking responsibility.
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